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The author has done a tremendous work in referring and quoting works of other researchers Mostly, it appears though, she has chosen those works to make the points she must have had in her mind prior to writing the book.The book offers a feminist perspective on a huge amount of anthropological research, lots of material on all sorts of things, way beyond what the title seems to suggest Nothing wrong with a feminist or whatever perspective, but it would be a lot convincing if it referred to facts.According to Wikipedia, Anatomy is the branch of biology concerned with the study of the structure of organisms and their parts The book has ZERO of that And nothing much of the promise in the subtitle A natural history either It is just another demonstration of the social scientists inferiority complex vis a vis the natural sciences By invoking terms and names of concepts from the latter, they hope to upgrade the value of the former Read Sokal s HoaxFashionable Nonsense Postmodern Intellectuals Abuse of Scienceand you know what I mean.All she provides, is a series of quotes from other researchers, and making quite contradictory conclusions, but in the end she offers nothing but moralistic, prudish standards of the society she is coming from, barely camouflaged with some pseudo scientific gibberish There is some genuine research she did herself, She put 17 SEVENTEEN couples through an MRI brain scanner asking them about their romantic attachments to their partners and deducting wild theories To reach some level of statistical reliability, one would have to have at least a sample of thirty for just one trait So speculation at best.Then, to concur with the mainstream of her intellectual world she throws in the obligatory Western in her view equal to European bashing it was the Europeans that introduced women battering in beau sauvage indigenous populations in virgin lands I fail to understand why those poor communities in the most exotic and extremely harsh environments such as the Kalahari desert or the jungle are reference models for speculating about how our hominid ancestors lived, who clearly must have roamed in favourable environments otherwise, how could they have become our ancestors Idealizing the prehistoric paradise a term she uses through the accounts of modern day hunters and gatherers she mis places mangoes and lychees into that African Eden hundreds of millennia before they were brought from Asia across the Indian Ocean And the book is full of such errors and mistakes This is quite remarkable, considering that almost every other sentence in some of chapter is a quote from somewhere.Towards the end she really blows it for me, when discussing the shift of power in the prehistoric and early historic societies from women over to men, by referring implicitly to the Marxist concept that the owners of the means of production are in control of power She claims that the introduction of the plow shifted the power to men, because plowing requires physical strength which only men possess as opposed to women when just using the hoe Using the hoe, she says is lighter work and even in today s societies where farming is still done with the hoe, women have power.Well, a child can use a plow, because the OXEN do the work Whereas working with a hoe is tough and hard work Common sense could have told her that Having worked in agriculture in Africa for many years, I have done both, I speak from experience.What an utter disappointment and on top a sad one, given that she is such a recognized expert on the subject.The journalist Mary Roach in her book Bonk Bonk The Curious Coupling of Science and Sexdoes a much better job in covering the subject that Helen Fisher claims to deal with in her title And much better readable, with a lot of humour and a twinkle in the eye. A Contemporary Classic About Love Now Completely Revised And UpdatedFrom Love At First Sight And Infidelity To Hook Up Culture And Slow Love, Dr Helen Fisher, The Biological Anthropologist And Renowned Expert On The Science Of Love Scientific American , Explains It All In This Thoroughly Revised Classic On The Evolution And Future Of Human Sex, Romance, And Partnership Examining Marriage And Divorce In Societies And Adultery In Cultures, She Argues That We Are Returning To Patterns Of Business, Sex, And Love That Echo Our Ancient Past And She Is Optimistic About Our Future This book draws comparisons between sex among humans and other animals, especially primates It speculates on the evolutionary development of mating rituals and relationships from paleontological discoveries and animal observations Perhaps it is a bit too speculative But, it s a good read none the less, and makes one wonder. This book is a must read for every adult It taught me so much about life and love Why we love the people that we love, yet marry the people that we merry Why we have affairs and multiple sex partners and why we have difficulty committing to those we love most It taught me why casual sex isn t casual and why making love can be so intense It taught me that love is love and why we love the ways that we do. Great book I am a physician and married fr 40 years , and I learned quite a bit The book is state of the science of human love romance, attachment and sex yes all three I neve knew there were three It is based on biology, evolution, anthropology It is very easy reading.Turns out The seven year itch is four years long Woman pursue and enjoy sex, and have intense orgasms than men serial monogamy is the normal state of things, amongst humans and most species Love, and sex are adapted to promote attachment to promote successful reproduction , so much so in humans, that we have evolved the largest in relative and absolute measurements and most intensely inervated sex organs of any species Women do not have a defined estrous they are always in heat There is great information on how we go about choosing a mate, the period of infatuation 1 3 years , adultery who, why, when, etc , and many well researched topics of interest Based on all this, and much , Dr Fisher gives great advise and counsel on maintaining intense love in our relationships The information is state of the art and up to date.I cannot emphasize what a great resource is this book.Thomas A Warr, MD The author is a biological anthropologist and, sure enough, this book is about the anthropological background of our biology, at least the sex and romance part of it I highly recommend it.As a senior who used to be on an Internet dating site Match.com , I had viewed several of the author s Ted talks These were intriguing enough to take a stab at this book in hardcover To my delight, this book does not repeat the subject matter of her talks Yes, some aspects of what she references in her talks make an appearance here and there but this work has a different emphasis The majority of the book is a description of the anthropological history of what the subtitle says mating, marriage, and why we stray It is well written, moves at a pleasantly rapid pace, and the anecdotes are well chosen and properly illustrative.The payoff from these lessons and the reader s education comes in the final chapter It is not just a home run, it is a grand slam Only now, while reading her observations, conclusions, and predictions, the reader understands the foundation and background of each The result is a credibility missing in a Ted talk or a YouTube video.A delightful thing about Ms Fisher is that she never loses sight of the sparkle and magic of romantic love While the knowledge she communicates in this volume helps the reader to understand why men and women act as they do including why we stray, if we do , she always focuses on the future, on the next adventure as we seek a new romantic partner In my view, her take on internet dating sites is exactly accurate Internet dating services are not dating services they are introducing services p 308 Amen to that What we do, how we act, where things go after the introduction that s still up to us.It is a rare book that causes a reader to feel, on completion, that he or she better understands human nature This book merits that praise.